Controlling your anger is an important discipline. It’s not to say you can never feel angry. And it’s not to say you can not want to act on that, but take a breath. You cannot be made to feel anything. How you feel in situations and consequently how you react, and what you do with that anger or any other feeling is solely down to you.
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Remember that.
Anger! I only new anger, until I learnt about controlling situations through breathing. How I turned every negative into positives. Why was I angry, I didn't want to be angry, it was just alway given to me. Here goes welcome to my anger.
7 years old I was taken to a pedo ring by my step dad, awful anger would come from that.
I left school at 13 not really able to read or write well and stayed on the streets, just a scared kid. anger would come from that.
I got into car crime as a young man entering his 20's, then a policeman mentored me away from crime and became a best friend, he was killed on duty. Its really hurt me, anger came from that.
Into my 30's I got myself in with a party crowd and got myself a drug habit, my girlfriend stopped me seeing my son for 8 years, anger came from that.
I began to self harm unable to cope with life and anger came from that.
My youngest brother hung himself, anger came from that.
Then a few years later my second youngest brother killed himself too, anger came from that.
Anger was well and truly controlling my life. Was anger always going to be around. I thought yes. How wrong could I be.
I fought back. I learnt the power of breathing, taking a breath could change everything.
What changed when I stopped anger controlling me.
Well I'm now 55 and this is where life is at.
I see my Son everyweek now. I get pure joy from this.
I have my girlfriend of 8 years, I get pure joy from this.
I have a 6 year old son and a 2 year old son, pure pure joy come from this.
I have a great job as a personal trainer, pure joy comes from this.
I do a 274hr shift in a children's home every week, pure joy comes from this.
I have a lovely home and car, pure joy comes from this.
Im so proud of how far I have come from that scared boy to scarred Man.
Thank you Noel I'm so glad I just read your thought on Anger. It made me think.
Although it may be hard to not react in the first instance. To keep our calm and to react in the opposite way that is expected often gets better results in the end.