She might be on her period.

How my experience at Kevin Harts show was thrown by a mood, although it wasn't what you think.

I went to see Kevin Hart a couple of weeks back at the Royal Albert Hall. (PTSD on that building for sure) And while Kevin seems like a really nice guy and I like his shows, films, interviews and find him hilarious as a person when I watch those, his stand up always seems a lil lacking to me. When I watch him I kind of sit and think, Is that really funny? or is it his voice and his gesticulations that made it funny?

Anyway, my wife and her friend got the tickets and asked me to come along. This was new, as they’ve been to Lauren Hill, Usher, the brits and 50Cent without me (50 cent without me. how does that happen?) so I was glad to be invited to be honest. We had really amazing seats near the front and all was good. I was nice and relaxed waiting for the show to start.

My relaxation didn’t last long.

So we’re in our row and there’s another younger couple in their 20’s a few seats away. We’re all sitting waiting for the warm up acts and after about 5 minutes, the couple decide to get up to leave, causing me, my wife, her friend and others to stand. About 5 minutes after that they come back with snacks, causing us to all stand again.

Cool, Go get them snacks. It happens. So what? It is what it is.

Then about 5 mins later the girl gets up again, then 5 mins later comes back. Again causing us to stand and sit each time as the seat rows are pretty narrow.

Okay, that’s fine. But over the next 1hr30 mins while the warm up acts are on, this woman does this about 5 times causing 5 ups and downs as she leaves and 5 ups and downs as she comes back. The last time she does it Kevin had just started his set.

This time I sighed heavily and loudly to make it known I was not happy. In fact I can’t lie. I was pissed by this point. Then my wife turns to me and whispers as we sit down.

“She might be on her period.”

I nodded. Checked myself. Shut my mouth and did not make another peep when the woman came back. I didn’t, huff, sigh, frown or make it known I was annoyed. I politely got up and let her through and sat back down and enjoyed the show. She maybe did it once again through out the show and got up and down without any fuss. And to be honest Kevin Hart was great. As I expected but it still was a fun night.

Here’s the thing.

This story is not about men having to understand when a woman is on and having to bow to every whim.

It’s not about women you don’t even know needing or wanting special treatment.

It’s not about any stereotypes about moods like you thought - and I played on in the subheading - it might be about

It’s not about the fact you can’t be annoyed if somebody is doing something that quite frankly could be seen as pretty annoying.

The point is this. I don’t know what is happening in that woman’s life. I don’t know if she’s on and having to change regularly. Or not. I don’t know if she has a medical condition and can’t sit for long. I don’t know if a family member is sick and she has to keep going out to have chats on her phone. I don’t know if she’s checking in on an elderly relative outside. If she’s just needs a bit of air or is greedy for more snacks.

Point is. I just didn’t know, so I didn’t need to be so annoyed. For a moment I lost myself in what was happening in my life only. This can happen sometimes, and that’s okay, but I did it without considering what could be happening with someone else.

I’ll never know what the woman’s deal was, and it was annoying. And I’m not advocating having to tiptoe around everyone else’s life and ignore your own feelings. But find the balance. Spare a thought about what could be happening with others before you react. Me huffing possibly could have made someone feeling down feel worse and I see that.

My wife’s comment may have been right as woman knowing. Or wrong. It’s irrelevant. I needed reminding that we should all just have a little more patience and compassion for each other. And hopefully after a bit of a bump in the road, I did that.

She may not have been on hers.

But defo seems like I was on mine. < and there’s the stereotypical joke about moods. Sue me!