My family are not huggers but my husband's family is. I'll always remember I didn't know wtf to do when his nephews (aged 16 and 18 at the time) gave me full on bear hugs when we said our goodbyes the first time of meeting.
It's so hard being a kid/young adult these days. I couldn't do it. In our day, if shit was bad at school we could go home, shut the door and get away from it.
I also think it doesn't matter if your male/female - the difficulty remains in this day and age of social media, with the constant need to be on trend and to have a high SM presence.
You can't be an assertive young woman without being labelled stuck up or a bitch. I am always told I'm stuck up or up my own arse - I just don't give enough of a shit to be bothered by the people that think that.
My daughter is a single mum of 3 and her eldest is a 15 year old boy. They have their rough days but by god she loves the bones of him and if all else fails, he has his Nanna to turn to
(I would like to clarify that I didn't have kids super young - my husband is older than me and I'm a parent by choice rather than biology)
While I respect it’s tough for both. This post was specifically about boys for the reason that I think young men and their masculinity is actually being dismantled. I’m witnessing it. I like the points here Anthony Mackie made. Not everything but it’s not just Americans
Aww this is lovely. My eldest only cries when he extremely tense or stressed. I’ve pushed him a lot these last 6 months with my own battles with my mental health and his wasn’t coping well at points. But I can report he seems to be doing much better as he seems happier, chatty and smiles more. My middle son cries at the drop of a hat but not in a super soft way he just news crying is ok. My husband too had recently learnt to accept crying is ok too. Since age 9 when his favourite grandad passed he got it in his head bits don’t cry and kept it inside festering away, a best friend died at 18 and again he got anger but wouldn’t cry and then he too has battled with his mental health due to watching my struggles. He is now crying more than we’ve ever seen in the past x
that's very sweet. Hope you're well. I agree that showing too much emotion is bad and so is the opposite. I wonder if you'd come across Hanif Kureishi's blog? He had a fall a few years back is is trying to walk again.
Love this, Noel
My family are not huggers but my husband's family is. I'll always remember I didn't know wtf to do when his nephews (aged 16 and 18 at the time) gave me full on bear hugs when we said our goodbyes the first time of meeting.
It's so hard being a kid/young adult these days. I couldn't do it. In our day, if shit was bad at school we could go home, shut the door and get away from it.
I also think it doesn't matter if your male/female - the difficulty remains in this day and age of social media, with the constant need to be on trend and to have a high SM presence.
You can't be an assertive young woman without being labelled stuck up or a bitch. I am always told I'm stuck up or up my own arse - I just don't give enough of a shit to be bothered by the people that think that.
My daughter is a single mum of 3 and her eldest is a 15 year old boy. They have their rough days but by god she loves the bones of him and if all else fails, he has his Nanna to turn to
(I would like to clarify that I didn't have kids super young - my husband is older than me and I'm a parent by choice rather than biology)
Your kids are blessed to have you as their dad.
While I respect it’s tough for both. This post was specifically about boys for the reason that I think young men and their masculinity is actually being dismantled. I’m witnessing it. I like the points here Anthony Mackie made. Not everything but it’s not just Americans
https://www.tiktok.com/@thepivot/video/7482223048775666990?lang=en-GB
Fair.
Aww this is lovely. My eldest only cries when he extremely tense or stressed. I’ve pushed him a lot these last 6 months with my own battles with my mental health and his wasn’t coping well at points. But I can report he seems to be doing much better as he seems happier, chatty and smiles more. My middle son cries at the drop of a hat but not in a super soft way he just news crying is ok. My husband too had recently learnt to accept crying is ok too. Since age 9 when his favourite grandad passed he got it in his head bits don’t cry and kept it inside festering away, a best friend died at 18 and again he got anger but wouldn’t cry and then he too has battled with his mental health due to watching my struggles. He is now crying more than we’ve ever seen in the past x
that's very sweet. Hope you're well. I agree that showing too much emotion is bad and so is the opposite. I wonder if you'd come across Hanif Kureishi's blog? He had a fall a few years back is is trying to walk again.
I haven’t. He’s written some Interesting movies
Also not seen that video the whole way through so thanks for sharing. Definitely not just in America